Also if you’re violating the terms you both agreed to, that’s not polyamory, that’s violating their trust.

Pretty much. I wish more people would actually think about this. Polymaory fine if that’s what your into, but what is not is cool if you keep things from your partners.

adding that if you coerce a partner or multiple partners into being okay with your other relationship(s) then that isn’t polyamory either you’re just a manipulator