Hey so I’m going to say a thing and it might ruffle some feathers.

If you have a disabled partner, you’re not an evil, horrible person for feeling strained/stressed because of their disability. As a person with disabilities, I can say that I’m constantly strained/stressed with myself. I am constantly sick and tired of being sick and tired, and I KNOW it’s an inconvenience in many ways. I know that it disrupts the societal norm of what a relationship should be and how a relationship should function. I know, and I understand.

That being said, the problem comes with how you respond to those feelings. The problem is when someone takes those feelings and then goes on to blame their partner, make them feel like it’s their fault they’re disabled, make their partner feel as though it’s harder for them than the actual person with the disability. The problem is when those feelings turn into bitterness, resentment, and so forth.

Be mindful and catch those feelings when they crop up so that they don’t fester; that’s the part you get a choice with.