See, to actually fight rape culture you need to say “Sex is always optional. You are never obligated to have sex.” You must always be concerned with consent, and that means you must accept that the answer may very well always be no.
—Sex Positivity is Rape Culture in Disguise (via ninjabikeslut)
“Sex Positivity is Rape Culture in Disguise”
SEX POSITIVITY IS RAPE CULTURE IN DISGUISE?
Does this person have the slightest idea what sex positivity is? Hint: it’s not “YOU ARE OBLIGATED TO ENJOY SEX”. It is not “SEX IS GOOD AND IT IS REQUIRED FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.” It is definitely not “YOU CAN’T SAY NO.” In fact, it’s the opposite (and fights for everything in this quote). It is the philosophy that sex is natural, healthy part of life that should be openly discussed. That your sexuality is your own, that your body is your own, and NOBODY ELSE’S. That you are free to explore it so long as everyone can & does consent. That you have a right to safety, to opting out, to opting in, to finding what feels right for you. And if you don’t want to be sexual, or you’re not ready, that’s OK too and you deserve the same respect as everyone else. In these ways and more, sex positivity directly confronts misogyny, abuse, and sexual violence. It addresses the coercive scripts written by a rape culture and works to put new ones in place. The sex positive feminist movement is one of the biggest challenges to rape culture that there is. This kind of willful mischaracterization, from within the feminist movement no less, is a slap in the face to every sex positive activist who works their ass off in a frustrating, never-ending fight to change our fucked up culture. It’s also a slap in your own face. Just stop.
(via lacigreen)
