Wow this is the most disturbing bit of rape culture I’ve seen all day

This is so fucking repulsive this is seriously a fucking tip sheet for abusers holy fuck no

MAKE SURE THEY CRY AND THEN GIVE THEM ALCOHOL AFTERWARD SO THEY THINK YOU STILL LOVE THEM this is fucking disgusting what the FUCK

I think I’m gonna be sick

"Make sure it ends in tears." That’s not love.

kill me

"aftercare" is literally grooming your abused, emotionally traumatised partner into a state of comfort so that you can abuse them again 

i hate this world

"Rape culture" "abuse" "trauma" ???????? ?? ? ?? ? ???? ? ?

Are yoU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!? This is a guideline for couples who ENJOY spanking in their relationship, for a wide variety of reasons, like the fact that it’s a KINK!!!!!! IT’S CONSIDERED A PART OF BDSM CULTURE!!!! Notice the very first image says "CONSENTING ADULTS ONLY!!!" THIS IS NOT ABUSE, THIS IS FETISH!!!

THE “AFTERCARE” THAT YOU ARE BITCHING ABOUT IS A **N.E.C.E.S.S.A.R.Y.**  PART OF ANY SCENES OR PLAYS THAT A COUPLE PARTICIPATES IN!!! IT’S LITERALLY WHERE YOU TAKE CARE OF AND LOVE ON YOUR PARTNER THAT WAS PUT THROUGH ANY STRESSING ACTS DURING THE SCENE!!!! IT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING THAT EVERY HEALTHY BDSM RELATED SCENARIO SHOULD END IN!!!!!!!!

OH MY GOD, CAN SOMEONE THAT HAS A MORE EXTENSIVE KNOWLEDGE OF ALL THIS EXPLAIN IT IN MORE DETAIL FOR ME PLEASE?? I AM TOO ANGRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT!!!!!!

By getting up-in-arms about your misinterpretation of rape culture, you are shaming people for their sexual preferences which I shouldn’t have to tell you is wrong and ignorant and cruel. This is a very good infographic that emphasizes consent, safety, and aftercare. Actually, this is an AWESOME post because it’s gender-neutral, emphasizes safety, consent, and responsibility repetitively, and it even has the person sitting on a nice little cushion at the end which is really thoughtful.

There are not many resources for people with kinks, PROBABLY because people like yo guys guys go around shitting on other people’s fetishes and call them abusers, which makes them ashamed of themselves and their sexual preferences. That’s when things can get dangerous, because people will practice BDSM without proper knowledge of safety and procedure (think “50 Shades of Grey,” which is a poorly written book that’s actually about abuse). This post is explaining how to be safe and healthy about practicing a kink, you guys should be APPLAUDING it.

Sexual/domestic abuse is undoubtedly a serious problem, but THIS POST HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ABUSE. Some people find spanking sexually fulfilling, some people find it emotionally fulfilling in an entirely asexual way. You have no right to condemn them for it. It’s important for people to have access to information about the safe practice of their kinks and fetishes. Just because you’re not into something, does NOT give you the right to shame someone else for practicing it safely and willingly.

Kink-shaming people who practice healthy and responsible sex is entirely counter intuitive to the struggle against rape-culture. You’re actually making things worse.

Don’t shit on something you don’t understand
Also read things thoroughly before making shitty assumptions