Hm, that’s a tough question honestly, because I do have some mixed feelings on the matter.

One thing that I know for certain is that the industry that produces porn is a major problem, given the horrific circumstances many actresses in the industry are put through. Many actresses in the industry are not there by choice; many are threatened, drugged, coerced, or otherwise forced into the business. That’s a real and scary issue that should be talked about and should be addressed because it’s a grave problem that many people would rather sweep under the rug.

Now, the part that I’d not agree with is this. I wouldn’t say it’s fair to say porn kills love. Yes, it can disrupt a relationship if it’s revered in an unhealthy manner. Say, for example, there is a man and a woman who are dating. That man watches these videos and obtains unrealistic ideas of sex and women, and therefore deems his partner as not enough. That’s a problem, and that’s dangerous to the relationship.

However, the big thing is that not all relationships work that way. I know of several couples who are closer because they are more open about what they watch, and even watch it together! It’s something to help their sexual relationship, but never takes precedence over their actual partner. They can watch it and recognize that those standards are unattainable and that ultimately they do enjoy the time with their partner more than what’s on screen.

But then again there are more downsides to porn and the industry that produces it.

But that’s not to say that the downfalls are going to be absolute and identical in everyone who uses it.

My main issue is the shaming of the matter, the people who have the gall to say it kills love or that it’s satanic or something else of the like, especially towards teens. Teens get enough crap for trying to figure out their sexuality, and any other form of sex shaming just rubs me the wrong way.

I don’t know if any of this made sense because very little of it did to me upon proof reading this. Again, my feelings are very mixed because yes, it’s science and it’s fact that porn can have harmful effects. It’s fact that the industry is a cesspool of problems unimaginable.

But to say it always kills love and leads to violence is as weeping generalization that I can’t get behind.