One thing they don’t tell you in the books and on the websites about BPD is how fucking terrifying it is to feel emotions at this level. We’re pegged as manipulative abusers and no one considers how scary it is not being able to control my rage and my sorrow. BPD is scary as fuck. Because I can’t help how I feel, I just try not to point my reactions at those around me. I am constantly in a state of trying to be in control and never fucking succeeding.
The difference between Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder.
this is good. just wanted to add that they are not mutually exclusive, some people have both
Here are a collection of posts to help you decide whether or not you may possibly have Borderline Personality Disorder:
- The Borderline Personality Disorder Checklist
- The BPD Checklist (Quiz Version)
- What is similar to BPD?
- I relate to ______ symptom. Do I have BPD?
- I don’t have _______ symptom. Do I still have BPD?
- I think I have BPD, but my therapist/psychiatrist doesn’t agree?
- I experience symptoms differently from what I’ve read. Do I still have BPD?
- Can I still have BPD even if I “seem normal” to other people?
- Can I still have BPD even if I don’t have the more “stereotypical” symptoms?
- Can I still have BPD even if have some “opposite” symptoms?
- Can I still have BPD if I don’t relate to blogs about “BPD feelings”?
- Can I still have BPD even if I don’t relate to the “simplified” description of it?
- Sometimes I relate to BPD relatable posts, and sometimes I don’t?
- Are there any REQUIRED symptoms of BPD?
- I was diagnosed with BPD, but I don’t think I have it?
- How can I get diagnosed?
- Can I have BPD even though I did not have a traumatic childhood?
- I’m a teenager. How do I know if it’s BPD or “teenage hormones”?
- Can minors be diagnosed with BPD?
- I can go weeks with borderline symptoms and then weeks without?
- Maybe I’m just faking it?
- I feel like I didn’t experience these symptoms until I read about them?
- Can I have BPD if a family member has it as well?
- Do I have these symptoms or am I adopting them/faking for validation?
- Do I need an “official” diagnosis in order to be valid?
- Does SBD support self-diagnosis?
- What is the best way to self-diagnose?
- Can I self-diagnose, even if I am underage?
- Is it okay for me to self-diagnose even if I am able to see a professional?
- 20 Things Only Someone with BPD Can Understand
- What do I have if I don’t have BPD?
- I definitely don’t have BPD, so what is the “opposite” of BPD?
- Can you still have BPD if you only experience negative emotions?
- What is a Favorite Person? Do I need to have one to have BPD?
- What is the difference between a Favorite Person and a Depended?
- How can I figure out if this is BPD or bipolar?
- Does it matter if I express my symptoms internally or externally?
today I’m going to be [spins wheel] sad about [spins wheel] when i was left out in pe that time and I’ll cope with it by [spins wheel] drinking a bottle of vodka and [spins wheel] starving myself for a week
//casual self-loathing and worst case scenario thoughts//
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It’s kind of exhausting that I’m often measured by my ability to mimic a genuine able-bodied neurotypical™.
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ok so i unfollowed a bunch of people and i still am going through my followed blogs
please reblog this if you are :•mentally ill (esp. bpd, psychosis or ddnos)
•part of a system (median preferred, although multiple is fine too!)
•trans/non-straight
•over 13/under 25
•otherkin/fictionkin
•aromanticor if you post :
•pokemon
•undertale
•homestuck
•pastels
•space
•pixel art!! (note: i probably wont follow if youre cis sorry)
specify what applies to you in the tags!!!also, if you want to follow me please read the links in my description!!
sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.
“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.
“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.
when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.
if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.
you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.
Wow, thought this was going to be an excusing piece of shit post, but pleasantly surprised. Please take to heart.
Trying to learn this.
This is SO important- me and my best friend literally sat down and worked out a strategy for when I go into episodes due to BPD or OCD so that we can end the situation before I escalate too high. Ey recognizes that I can’t control myself in the moment, but that doesn’t make it okay. It just means we need to work together to protect our relationship.
(Source: atlanxic)
If you struggle to keep a favourite happy here are some tips to try to keep them around:-
- Be 100% straight and honest with them from the beginning
- Explain to them what your BPD does to you and what it means for them
- Make sure they are educated on what BPD is
- Tell them that they must set firm rules into place for your behaviour
- Write a journal/blog that they have access to so they can learn what can happen when they mess up (its a learning curve)
- Get them to be completely honest with you too
- Make sure they TRULY understand what they’re getting themselves into; full consent is important
- Ride the waves
- Explain what your triggers are and what WILL set you off and try to figure ways to minimise this risk
- Get them to message you maybe once a day so you can counteract your relationship object permanence problems.
- If they can’t accept who you are from the start, they aren’t worth connecting to anyway.
Hi everyone! Recently I attended an 8 week group therapy course. The course was based around borderline personality disorder and how to cope. At the end of the course I was given a small booklet with an overview of all that we learnt, so I decided to upload them onto this blog so other people with BPD who cannot afford therapy can benefit! I understand that its only an overview, so if you want further details or are confused about anything mentioned, please send me a message! Here are the chapters/contents of the booklet:
- Introduction
- Mindfulness and Mind Control
- Self Soothing and Improving the Moment
- Keeping Calm
- Understanding Emotions
- Relationships
If anything is unreadable, or you have difficulty, please send me a message and I will type out what is written on the page for you!