I’ve come to notice that the only times men play games with female protagonists is when it’s easy to disguise or forget you’re playing as a girl. Take Portal, for example. Rarely do you see Chell, the woman you’re playing as. Many people who don’t pay as much attention don’t even realize she’s a girl for a while. Same goes for Metroid, especially the early games. If it can be forgotten or easily pushed aside that the protagonist is a girl, then men find it acceptable to play those games.
So of course then besides the lucky few, most games with a girl lead are aimed at only girls and poorly produced in order to suck up money by making it a girls game for younger girls rather than a legitimately fun and well made game. So that perpetuates that games that seem girly or feminine or have a female lead that isn’t made masculine or neutral are bad and poorly made, because most are.
Long story short, not only is much of the female representation in games abysmal (but that’s a whole different can of worms), but the non offensive representation they do have is masculinized so “boys can it play it too”, and all other representation that isn’t completely objectifying or masculinized is in poorly made cash sponges.