The next time someone tries to tell me I can’t use singular they, I’m just going to tell that they’re right. I’m not a singular entity. I’m 10,000 bees, controlling this flesh vessel as a hive mind.

College Chronicles

Today we had the weekly staff meeting, and while I was in the writing center a coworker accidentally called me she- I actually did not notice because I was taking my meds and eating a snack. When we sat down at the meeting, he pulled me aside and apologized for using the wrong pronouns, even though I hadn’t even noticed. Later on, another coworker used the pronouns, and when I pointed it out she was quick to apologize and correct herself.

Basically, this is why I love college. It gets so much better.

Oh!!! Quick reminder: If you are cis and someone asks for your pronouns, please do not say “female pronouns” or “male pronouns”. You probably mean well, but it implies that all people using she/her identify as girls and all people using he/him identifies as boys. It excludes nonbinary people who use gendered pronouns- I’m non-binary, but I use they and he pronouns. That doesn’t make me a boy. Anywho, if you’re asked your pronouns, I’d really appreciate it if you just say “he/him/his” or “she/her/hers”. Thanks!

TBH I don’t care how long I have/haven’t known you, I will do everything I can to use your correct pronouns.

My best friend whom I’ve been close to for eight years recently said they want to be referred to with they/them pronouns after me using she/her pronouns with them for so many years. So what? They’re going to be referred to with their correct pronouns and that’s that.

If I’ve known you for three days and yesterday you realized she/her pronouns fit you better than he/him, then that’s rad. Just let me know and consider it done ((and correct me if/when I make errors)).

Your pronouns are important and should be respected; it’s important to me that you all feel valued and acknowledged, so if I ever talk about you or if we ever talk in general and you change your pronouns or just don’t make them obvious, please let me know so I can do whatever I can for you lovelies!

Don’t ask a trans person what their “real name” is. I don’t care if you’re just curious, or you don’t mean anything by it.

DON’T DO IT.

That is not their name.

You asking their birth or “real” name implies that their actual name is invalid.

You don’t need to know.

You have no right to know, no matter how close you are to them.

DO. NOT. ASK.