keiracknightleys:

I can’t believe we live in a society where men who beat women have thriving careers, men who yell at interviewers disrespectfully, storm out of rooms, yell, throw things, and verbally abuse women continue to find success. But when a woman, who has been trapped in an unbearable situation, reaches out for help and tries to tell her story.. She gets completely shut down. I’m so sorry, Kesha. You don’t deserve this. You don’t deserve to be stifled creatively and you don’t deserve to be forced to work with someone who sexually assaulted you. This is so disgusting. 

(Source: aliciavikander)

death-deafying-stuntman:

chidatokiko:

condoms are free because 40 million people died during the aids crisis, and the vast majority of them were lgbt+, sex workers, or both. condoms are free because people dying of aids had to fight tooth and fucking nail so no one else needed to. condoms are free because people were having real actual die ins as form of protest. condoms are free because the government laughed while the lgbt community was dying, until they were forced to fight back. condoms are free because they save lives, everyday. they save rape victims lives, they save lgbt lives, they save sex workers lives, ect. saying condoms are only free for the benefit of men is transmisogynistic, classist, homophobic, and completely ignores the struggles of sex workers and rape victims. 

so the next time you bring up the fight for free menstruation products (and yes, you will have my support in that) leave free condoms out of it 

Filed under “things I wasn’t taught in school, but am glad to know now”

(Source: aisakataiga-archive)

misandry-mermaid:

samanticshift:

i’m so bored with this insistence that you can’t truly recover from trauma if you don’t forgive your abuser. tbh it doesn’t even make sense, because how does that forgiveness help me? if i need to “forgive” anyone it’s myself, bc all the self-blame does more to stall my recovery than refusing to forgive my rapist ever could.

i mean part of the problem is the way people conflate lack of forgiveness with hatred, but the idea that all negative feelings damage the self doesn’t help. i’m okay with nursing a little hatred. it doesn’t hurt me. it doesn’t hurt the people i love. all i’ve done is taken some negative feelings and directed them at a deserving target. i don’t have to forgive to recover, and my rapist doesn’t deserve my forgiveness anyway.

“if i need to “forgive” anyone it’s myself, bc all the self-blame does more to stall my recovery than refusing to forgive my rapist ever could.”

I’m highlighting this bit because I’ve been attacked (rather viciously, might I ad) in the past for mentioning to rape victims that forgiving themselves in part of the healing process, because people associate forgiveness with guilt and use that concept to imply that I’m saying rape survivors are somehow to blame for their attack.  OF COURSE that’s not what I mean, and if you are someone who hears “forgive yourself.” and assume it means “you’re to blame, but you need to let it go!” then your understanding of forgiveness is a shallow and inaccurate one.  

Samanticshift did a great job of laying out why I tell survivors of any kind of abuse or trauma to forgive themselves: because self-blame, self-doubt, and self-hate are often a symptom of traumatic events and forgiving yourself, which often DOES include recognizing your LACK of blame in said event, is an act of self-care and a vital part of healing and working through that pain.

peircethebvbjackie:

•BISEXUALITY IS NOT A PHASE

•FEMINISM IS NOT ABOUT BEING BETTER THAN MEN

•RAPE IS NOT ENJOYABLE

•SEXUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE

•ANXIETY IS NOT “CUTE”

•EATING DISORDERS ARE NOT A BODY TYPE

(Source: dreamy-seokjin)

ahappymuslimah:

forte-fievre:

The rape rate of the United States is four times higher than that of Pakistan but you have white people more concerned about saving those “helpless” brown women from brown men in another continent under thinly veiled racism. You don’t care for these women; you only need a reason to justify your racism. On both sides, women continue suffering.

[Audience giving a standing ovation]

only-yesmeans-yes:

Why is it so difficult to understand that if someone is raped or molested, it’s not their fucking fault.

Whether they’re drunk, high, wearing no clothes, or too young to even know what’s going on, it’s not their fucking fault.