PSA FOR TRANS GUYS AND QUEER PEOPLE WHO WEAR CHEST BINDERS

Summer is fucking brutal in a lot of places, which means we need to be extra careful. As you’re enjoying the season, please remember:

• Don’t wear your binder for more than 8 hours at a time!
  
• Drink ALL THE WATER. The compression against your chest will make you exponentially more fatigued and light-headed if you become dehydrated.
• Don’t wear you binder any longer than you need to. Whenever you’re relaxing at home, it’s best to wear a light t-shirt and no binder so your body has a chance to relax. It will get hella sweaty under your binder in hot weather, so take every chance you get to let your body breathe.
• Be conscious of your posture; being hunched over will cause more pressure and sweating on your chest, which can cause dizziness.

FACT: A majority of trans men experience periods so that the masses of cis men who faint at the thought of a ~period~ don’t have to. You’re welcome. ;)

current hobby: becoming progressively more petty as my mom continues to misgender me and not care

• I asked her if I looked handsome and she paused and said “you’re cute”. I asked again, and the responses? “adorable” “beautiful” “good-looking” As soon as we get down to the car I look at dad and ask “am I handsome?” and he immediately says “yes you look handsome” while mom just stands there.
  
• I made like forty 80s-text callout images about respecting pronouns and demolishing transphobia that are vague enough to not be blatantly about her but specific enough that she’ll see them and know. Every day I will post 2 or 3 of those images on Facebook for everyone to see. If she confronts me about it, I’ll start tagging her on every image.
• Dad does his best to use “he” pronouns (and gets it right like half the time), and every time he does it when mom is around I can just feel her slightest hint of exasperation.
• At dinner when grandma and grandpa were apologizing for messing up my pronouns (right after mom was visibly annoyed and told me to stop playing games when I corrected her), I proceeded to loudly express how much it means to me that they at least try and feel remorse when they get it wrong, and that makes me feel so safe and loved. And then I glanced at mom, back to them, and kept talking.

galpalsincorporated:

The fact of the matter is that sometimes staying closeted for your own safety isn’t just about fear of physical violence. Sometimes it’s because you don’t think that you could handle the rejection, judgement, and/or emotional abuse that could come with coming out. Sometimes it’s because you don’t know what coming out would entail and you’re scared to find out. Staying closeted (with everyone or with some people) is your choice. Put your wellbeing above all else. I love you, stay safe.

THIS. When coming out, I knew for relative certainty that I would not be physically harmed or kicked out of the house. However, the emotional fallout of coming out was crushing, to say the least. The culmination of it all lead to several suicide attempts. I would not wish how I felt or what happened to me onto ANYONE. In the end, I don’t think I regret coming out. However, I understand those who choose not to because the consequences may lead to something like I experienced.

(Source: businessofgals)

The Straights™ were right all along. There IS a Gay Agenda™.

It’s being treated like a human being with the same damn rights as everyone else. How scandalous.

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support feminine boys that were assigned female at birth

This might be helpful.

gendercube:

I decided to compile a list of all of the posts that are more prominent or what people might find most helpful. These are the main posts, but do check out the tags on the side here for other posts relating to these topics. I’ll update this as time goes on - Last updated May 16th, 2016.

About me
How much did top surgery cost - How much did the hysterectomy cost
How did I pay for top surgery

Testosterone:
1 1/2 months
2 months
3 months
4 months
5 months
6 months
7 months
8 months
9 months
Voice from 1 to 9 months
10 months
11 months
1 year on T
13 months on T (voice)
15 months on T (voice)
17 months on T (voice)
18 months on T (voice and update)
2 years on T (voice)

Fears about starting T

Body comparisons:
Beard, 2 years - 3 years
Torso, 1 year - 4 years
Arms, Pre-T - 3 years
Forearm, Pre-T - 3 years
Hands, 3 months - 3 years
Thighs and butt, 1 year - 4 years
Legs, Pre-T - 4 years

Top surgery:
Top surgery advice part 1
Top surgery advice part 2
Top surgery advice part 3 (questions, fears, concerns)

Pre-op physical
Pre-op call
Pre-op appointment
Surgery day
Post-op appointment

1 day post-op
2 days post-op
3 days post-op
4 days post-op
5 days post-op
6 days post-op
12 days post-op
21 days/3 weeks post-op (text)
21 days/3 weeks post-op (pictures)
4 weeks post-op
1 month post-op (pictures)
5 weeks post-op
6 weeks post-op (text)
6 weeks post-op (pictures)
2 months post-op (text)
2 months post-op (pictures)
3 months post-op (text)
3 months post-op (pictures)
4 months post-op
5 months post-op
6 months post-op
7 months post-op
8 months post-op
9 months post-op
10 months post-op
11 months post-op
1 year post-op
1 year, 6 months post-op
2 years post-op
3 years post-op

Nipple sensation
Post-op Nipple Care
Post-op Nipple Healing (10 days to 6 months)

Mansculpture:
8 days vs. 2 months post-op comparison
4 months post-op
More info on this falls under the top surgery updates above

Hysterectomy:
Hysterectomy Consultation
Surgery day and overnight hospital stay
Surgical photos (graphic)

1 day post-op (pictures)
4 days post-op
1 month post-op (text)
1 month post-op (pictures)
Misc recovery updates

Phalloplasty:
All posts relating to my surgery can be found under my ‘Gendercube Phalloplasty’ tag.

Pre-op appointment
Bowel preparation
Surgery day

1 day post-op
2-3 days post-op
4 days post-op

DHT:
What is DHT, how does it work, how do I get it, did it work for you?
Andractim: Ordering, Arrival, First Use
Andractim: 1 Week
Andractim: 1 Month
How does DHT gel differ from testosterone gel/testosterone oil?
Several informative questions are answered in the Andractim tag on this page.

Pumping:
What is pumping, where do I start?

I’m watching a movie about a trans woman!!! Who doesn’t hate her penis!!!

All Pairs of Boxers are Taken!

Sorry to those who weren’t able to get a pair, though people have already asked for all the ones I have. ^^;

Free Boxers ((Just Pay Shipping))

justaprinceofthegalaxy:

Hey there; I got a pack of like 4 or 5 boxers and I just don’t like how they fit because I’ve got thicker thighs. They’re a size medium, and I’m 5′2″ and 145 lbs. They fit great on the waist but just too snug around the thigh.

If you’re interested and will pay shipping, I’ll send them to you for free. I live in WA state and it’ll probably weigh around a pound and a half if you need to calculate shipping cost.

NOTE: This offer is only for trans boys and nb people. 

Oh this probably goes without saying but I’ll wash and dry them all before sending them, of course, since I can’t remember which ones I’ve tried on. Inbox me or send me a chat message if you’re interested. uvu

Free Boxers ((Just Pay Shipping))

Hey there; I got a pack of like 4 or 5 boxers and I just don’t like how they fit because I’ve got thicker thighs. They’re a size medium, and I’m 5′2″ and 145 lbs. They fit great on the waist but just too snug around the thigh.

If you’re interested and will pay shipping, I’ll send them to you for free. I live in WA state and it’ll probably weigh around a pound and a half if you need to calculate shipping cost.

NOTE: This offer is only for trans boys and nb people. 

I’m so mad that I stop myself from wearing makeup because a majority of society automatically assumes makeup = female. I love to do peoples’ makeup because I’m artsy and it’s so fun to play with colors but I don’t have anyone’s makeup to do and I’m scared of being more misgendered than I already am. A round of applause and encouragement for the nb and non-female identifying trans people who wear makeup despite people not understanding. A round of applause to the amab trans and nb people who wear makeup even if they get nasty looks for it. You guys are so brave in my eyes and I honestly wish I had your confidence. Rock on, you rock stars.