PSA FOR TRANS GUYS AND QUEER PEOPLE WHO WEAR CHEST BINDERS

Summer is fucking brutal in a lot of places, which means we need to be extra careful. As you’re enjoying the season, please remember:

• Don’t wear your binder for more than 8 hours at a time!
  
• Drink ALL THE WATER. The compression against your chest will make you exponentially more fatigued and light-headed if you become dehydrated.
• Don’t wear you binder any longer than you need to. Whenever you’re relaxing at home, it’s best to wear a light t-shirt and no binder so your body has a chance to relax. It will get hella sweaty under your binder in hot weather, so take every chance you get to let your body breathe.
• Be conscious of your posture; being hunched over will cause more pressure and sweating on your chest, which can cause dizziness.

GUESS WHO MIGHT BE STARTING ON TESTOSTERONE IN THE NEXT FEW MONTHS!!!!!!!!! SPOILER: IT ME!!!!!

After over fours years of having to grapple with my parents’ transphobia and the emotional damage caused by it, they finally are putting forth the effort to use my pronouns. I am on their health insurance, and thus at their mercy, though my mom has given me the green light to pursue hormone therapy. I know she probably isn’t a fan of it, but the fact that she’s setting aside how she feels is such a huge leap that makes me so incredibly happy. It will probably be 2-6 months until I start, but you can bet your sweet bippy there will be pictures documenting it. <3

//to the tune of Avril Lavigne’s ‘Girlfriend’//

♫ ♫ ♫ Hey hey, you you, I don’t like your cisnormativity.

No way, no way, I think you need to reconcile your ignorance and blind hate.

Hey hey, you you, I could help you better acknowledge and understand the inherently queerphobic nature of society provided you generally want to understand and are willing to recognize your transphobic behaviors and proceed to change them. ♫ ♫ ♫

current hobby: becoming progressively more petty as my mom continues to misgender me and not care

• I asked her if I looked handsome and she paused and said “you’re cute”. I asked again, and the responses? “adorable” “beautiful” “good-looking” As soon as we get down to the car I look at dad and ask “am I handsome?” and he immediately says “yes you look handsome” while mom just stands there.
  
• I made like forty 80s-text callout images about respecting pronouns and demolishing transphobia that are vague enough to not be blatantly about her but specific enough that she’ll see them and know. Every day I will post 2 or 3 of those images on Facebook for everyone to see. If she confronts me about it, I’ll start tagging her on every image.
• Dad does his best to use “he” pronouns (and gets it right like half the time), and every time he does it when mom is around I can just feel her slightest hint of exasperation.
• At dinner when grandma and grandpa were apologizing for messing up my pronouns (right after mom was visibly annoyed and told me to stop playing games when I corrected her), I proceeded to loudly express how much it means to me that they at least try and feel remorse when they get it wrong, and that makes me feel so safe and loved. And then I glanced at mom, back to them, and kept talking.

@people outside the LGBT+ community

In regards to my previous post about the general public being unsafe for LGBT+ folk, here’s some receipts that I cross-referenced with different sites to affirm credibility.

And here’s something important to consider: YOU contribute to this even if you’re not stabbing and shooting LGBT+ people. YOU contribute to this every time you ignore someone’s preferred name and pronouns, every time you complain about how LGBT+ people are so overly sensitive and need to “not make everything about their sexual orientation”, every time you roll your eyes about pride parades or protests for more LGBT+ rights. YOUR complacency contributes to all of the fatalities and hate crimes detailed below. YOUR complacency allows this violence to continue. YOUR complacency makes the world an unsafe space for LGBT+ people to simply exist.

This article is the basis, describing a lot of the history and current events of LGBT+ hate crimes. If you only read one of these resources, let it be this one.
https://www.nytimes.com/…/…/us/hate-crimes-against-lgbt.html

And here is the FBI’s hate crime statistics for 2015. Hate crimes against LGBT+ folk comprise about 20% of all hate crimes from 2015. I checked 2014 out of curiosity, and it was about the same, give or take a percent.
https://www.fbi.gov/…/s…/2015-hate-crime-statistics-released

This is a detailed breakdown of the Orlando shooting that occurred last June- the largest mass shooting in American history that took the lives of over 50 people.
https://www.nytimes.com/…/what-happened-at-the-orlando-nigh…

It’s quite lengthy, but this document details several case studies and narratives of transgender people who were murdered in acts of hate in recent years. The information presented includes up to 2015 accounts.
http://hrc-assets.s3-website-us-east-1.amazonaws.com/…/HRC-…

And, finally, as a little visual tidbit, this source is a map illustrating which states have laws against hate crimes, which states have laws against hate crimes that include sexual orientation, and states that have laws against hate crimes that include sexual orientation AND gender identity.
http://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/hate_crime_laws

#nodaysoff from respecting someone’s gender identity and name/pronouns. 💪💪💪

//internal screaming//

So me and my mom talk via email, and in my most recent reply I dropped the bomb that I’m starting the process of legally changing my name. I’m so nervous I’m literally shaking. I don’t know how she’ll react.

I took up a second job at the beginning of spring; it’s a stipend position, and in a few days I’ll be receiving that stipend. Then, I’m going to be able to start the process of something I’ve wanted to do since 10th grade.

I’m going to get my name legally changed. It’s a complicated, lengthy, and costly process to get it changed in every aspect, but I’ve wanted this for so long.

I don’t know how I’ll talk about it to my parents. They probably figure I would plan on doing this. I’m an adult now, I live alone now, and I’ve finally got enough money in savings to use this.

justaprinceofthegalaxy:

justaprinceofthegalaxy:

I’m watching a movie about a trans woman!!! Who doesn’t hate her penis!!!

THE ACTRESS IS TRANS!!! THE ACTRESS IS TRANS!!!! OH MY GOSH!!!

It’s called “Boy Meets Girl” from 2014, and it’s on Netflix!!!

ALSO- it takes place in the South, where her best friend is a cis dude that totally defends her and doesn’t act weird about her!!!

And the father is accepting as hell!!!

And the little brother clearly explores his gender!!!

I’m just so excited this is BEAUTIFUL.

I’m watching a movie about a trans woman!!! Who doesn’t hate her penis!!!

Free Boxers ((Just Pay Shipping))

justaprinceofthegalaxy:

Hey there; I got a pack of like 4 or 5 boxers and I just don’t like how they fit because I’ve got thicker thighs. They’re a size medium, and I’m 5′2″ and 145 lbs. They fit great on the waist but just too snug around the thigh.

If you’re interested and will pay shipping, I’ll send them to you for free. I live in WA state and it’ll probably weigh around a pound and a half if you need to calculate shipping cost.

NOTE: This offer is only for trans boys and nb people. 

Oh this probably goes without saying but I’ll wash and dry them all before sending them, of course, since I can’t remember which ones I’ve tried on. Inbox me or send me a chat message if you’re interested. uvu